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I've been meaning to post this ditto to what Bitch Ph.D. said a few days ago:

Dooce nails it.
guess there are some people who are very uncomfortable with the fact that I and many other women are writing about our children on our websites. How dare we violate your privacy like this, how dare we endanger you like this, we obviously care more about ad revenue than what this is going to do to your adolescence. And I have been asked countless times if I am at all worried that you will totally resent me for the details I have shared here.
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Will you resent me for this website? Absolutely. And I have spent hours and days and months of my life considering this, weighing your resentment against the good that can come from being open and honest about what it's like to be your mother, the good for you, the good for me, and the good for other women who read what I write here and walk away feeling less alone. And I have every reason to believe that one day you will look at the thousands of pages I have written about my love for you, the thousands of pages other women have written about their own children, and you're going to be so proud that we were brave enough to do this.
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On a side note, I've never read Dooce. Never. OK, maybe once when she first made it big, but I have an allergy to big bloggers or at least ones who are already big when I get there. I prefer to watch smaller onces grow ala Feministe, This Woman's Work, and a few others. But I've become more curious with all the media she's gotten and the spit fire attitude I've seen.

Comments

Anonymous said…
When i was first divorced...my ex husband tried to get it put in the divorce decree that I would not talk about my child on my website nor post pictures. He brought it up in mediation as if I was running a child porn site. I calmly stated that I always put Isabelle's best interest first and that if I felt I was putting her in harms way or doing something that seemed inappropriate I would stop immediately. He still to this day hates my website. Maybe I'm doing something right?
Florinda said…
I'm just glad to see someone else admit to not reading Dooce, and for similar reasons to why I don't either. :-) Is that wrong?

Sometimes I feel like in Blogland, the big ones just get bigger.
Veronica said…
amy - anything that pisses off the ex is right.

florinda - haha! thanks for making me feel less of a freak.

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