Writing at the intersection of motherhood, feminism and my Latinidad

10 January 2009

Why I write what I write

Warning this post is really just a brain dump. I had a great phone call with one of my freelance 'bosses' and really it was great. But they pointed out that I like to write about women's stuff a lot. And it got me thinking...

Yeah, I do write about women a lot. It might be me making up for a childhood of rejecting many girly things. Playing with dolls but scoffing at skirts & pink. For preferring the company of boys to girls because boys played sports and didn't squeal when they were hit. Then when I hit middle school, boys got too weird and girls were mostly catty. The ones who weren't, I was scared of getting too close in case I scared them away.

But honestly I write about women because I don't feel like enough people are really writing about women in the media. If you give me a soapbox, a medium, a platform to talk about something, I'm sure that the first thing that comes to mind is about women.

I know there are people in my life who get tired of it. Who get tired of me wondering if Cat Cora gets challenged as often as the other Iron Chefs and why I don't see many women challengers. Yeah, that's what goes thru my mind when I'm trying to relax with Food Network.

I can't turn off the feminist analysis. I don't look at the world thru a set of feminist glasses, I see the world thru feminist eyes. I can't take them off. I see questions everywhere, I see women missing in a larger story, especially if women are disproportionately affected.

Don't worry, I didn't take the question or rather assessment negatively. Not at all. I just hadn't stopped to really think about it in some time. And I needed that...I need to be more cognizant of what I'm writing, why I'm writing it and what I want to do with it.

OK end brain dump...

7 comments:

We've thought the same thing about Iron Chef. How many challengers didn't choose Cat Cora because they were afraid of being 'beaten by a girl'?

wondering if Cat Cora gets challenged as often as the other Iron Chefs

i love you. i thought about the exact same thing the other day.

Well of course you do! We see things through the "lens" of everything that has happened to us, been ingrained in us, said to us - things we are cogniscient of and those we are not...

And that is why we love you - because you have those "eyes."

And you're able to share how to open your eyes and how to open the eyes of those around you, gently but forcibly on occasion. And I too wish that there were more female challengers on Iron Chef and I have no doubt that there are chefs who would not challenge her because she's female. And I've also seen her raise her eyebrow and retort when mildly sexist things have been said. "you make pretty good X for a woman chef" "yeah? well keep trying and yours will get better."This is totally from memory so even if I dreamt it, I could still see her saying it.

So thanks for your eyes, your vision, your education. It's affected my life permanently and for the better.

Totally agree with Cinnamon...

(I feel a that song from Wicked - "For Better" coming on though... why is that?)

:-)

Thanks all.

Actually I've never seen "Wicked" or read the book. I can't recall the last time I saw a play that wasn't for kids!

Hmmm... We will have to change that.

Wicked was a good show - catchy tunes and all - I started the book but didn't finish it (have it here if you want to borrow it)