A friend of mine who is also a new mom wrote on Facebook about seeing a baby in a stroller with a million toys in its face. Then she said, "Oh, I shouldn't judge." I replied, "Sometimes it's ok to judge." And I mean it. I don't mean petty little things, I mean big picture things. Yes, like the "Single Ladies" parents.
I've seen one set of parents on two different networks explaining away why they would let their pre-teen daughter dance around in a lingerie-looking costume. On ABC they have a lot of excuses, er, reasons for being ok with the dance routine:
- It's a dance competition: I'm not familiar with the circuit and the dancers I knew in high school didn't dress like this and I went to high school in the 1990s. We were all about the Fly Girl attire and dance moves, believe me. So I did a web search for some dance competition videos and found none that look like a 7-year-old burlesque show. Even the teen dances that were "sexy" weren't gyrating the same way as the "Single Ladies" girls.
- When you go swimming, you wear a swimsuit: In other words, the costumes are standard fare for dance competition. Again to the Bat Computer! One catalog's children's wear was fairly tame. Most were cheesy enough to be age-appropriate. Another [flash catalog, page 92] pushed the limits, but was just one this side of burlesque.
- These are the type of routines you see at competitions: One competition site I found has a letter [PDF] for coaches and parents on appropriateness of routines and music. "The [Federation of Dance Competitions] appreciates the art form, creativity and desire to heighten world awareness of these themes through dance but deem it inappropriate to present them to audiences that include children of every age." Honestly, when I read the letter, I felt that they were more concerned with WHO was in the audience (and I don't mean 6yos) watching than anything else.
Our media is sexualizing girls at younger and younger ages. Why are parents adding to this problem?
As I said, I'm not familiar with the dance circuit, all I can do is analyze what I see, filter it thru what I know and make a judgment.
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