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Happy Samhain!

It's the new year for us tree-hugging goddess worshipers! So I wish you all a happy Samhain and a wicked Halloween. But it also means that it is the end of the month and the last day for the DonorsChoose Bloggers Challenge. While this blog did raise $165 (I'll donate over the weekend to bring us to a round $200...more if the hubby gets that job he interviewed for!) it was from two donors who are BFFs of mine. Thus this was a big FAIL. But don't think that this will be the last time I fundraise here readers! Oh, no...I already have one brewing for December. :D But if you want to leave me a small Samhain gift in the form of $5 for DonorsChoose, I still have thank you gifts available! I'm attending the Chicago Foundation for Women's luncheon today, so hopefully I'll have some good stories to tell. I'm wishing you lots of your favorite candy today!

EVENT:: The Day After - A Feminist Town Forum

Wednesday, November 5 @ 7:00PM EST PARTICIPATE IN PERSON: CHANGE OF VENUE LESLEY UNIVERSITY AMPITHEATER, 1815 Mass. Ave in Cambridge PARTICIPATE ONLINE IN REAL TIME: Participate by logging on 11/5 at 7PM EST to any of our participating blogs, including Feministe , Feministing , Girl with Pen , Viva La Feminista , WIMN's Voices , No Cookies for Me , Writes Like She Talks , Heartfeldt Politics , TakePart , or at our mogulus channel . ¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o OK, so you'll have voted, hopefully you'll have celebrated, and perhaps even be a bit hung over in a week. But I am inviting you to come back here to join a national feminist town forum. The Center for New Words has been holding forums for the past month or so asking feminists "What do women want?" thru the This Is What Women Want election project and well, women have been speaking up. What better way to close this project than to gather together the night af

A Write to Marry Day Fairy Tale

Once upon a time there was a little girl who had big dreams. She was going to be an archeologist, a teacher, and maybe one day the President of the United States. She knew she wanted to get out of her small suburban town and see the world. When other girls were playing wedding, she joined in, but deep inside didn't think that she would ever find a boy who would marry her. She did dream about having children one day. A husband was always optional. Fast forward to early adulthood and the little girl did find a boy who said he would marry her and tolerate, some days love, her crazy feminista ways. They married in a tiny chapel in Las Vegas. And they left the hotel-casino to live their Happily Ever After. ¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o,,,,o¤º°`°º¤o When I hear people talk about defending the institution of marriage, I wonder if my marriage would really qualify. Yes, as a woman I married a man, but we were not married in a house of worship, even thou the justic

Repost:: And what are you for Halloween? A 10-year-old hooker!

I've had a lot of hits of people finding this blog because of this post , so I thought I'd repost it for all my new readers since last Halloween! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Is that what we really want our daughters to be this Halloween? I have to admit that Halloween is my favorite holiday. What I don't like is that it too has been pornified in recent years and the pornification keeps trickling down to younger and younger kids. Take this costume for example #1: Major Flirt . You daughter can be sassy, cute, and of course, sexy all at the same time! And please, don't try to tell me that this is the same as a cheerleader costume. The label is FLIRT! Flirts have sexual power. But look through the costume aisle at your local store and you'll see that the costumes are sexed up even for girls. AND also notice the gender line that is clearly drawn. I was in Target last week browsing with my daughter and noticed it oh so well. In the boys aisle you can be a doctor, p

Work it, Mom! Monday

This week I muse about Sarah Palin's $150,000 shopping spree , but it's not what you might think! It's down to the last week for the DonorsChoose Blogger Challenge . We already have one class funded, let's get that second one funded! The teacher is requesting funding to buy books by women authors. Also don't forget that I'm giving out goodies to a few select peeps who donate! Last week's AWEARNESS posts included: Leaving Our Children Behind in Nebraska Kids and the Election Is Voting for McCain Racist? Do We Need "Gay High" or LGBT-friendly Curricula? And thank you to everyone who has been commenting in person or via email that their Ms. magazine has shown up in their mailbox. Yes, I know I'm far behind in my self-promotion emails!

The benefits of the business of mommy blogging

Obviously the benefits are the swag...I'm not the most popular mommy blogger for swag. I don't get gift baskets delivered to my home without request, but I do have friends who are connected. So thanks to Kim , I was able to attend a LeapFrog party last weekend. The kid already had a Tag system and in September we received the Leapster 2 and Didj systems. As the direction following gal I am, I programed both new systems with the kid's info and correct status as a kindergartener. Alas, the Diji system and the game that accompanied it are strict on the grade level, thus it wouldn't do much for a kindergartener when the game is for 2nd graders and up. The Leapster 2 has a nice feature where kids can doodle and color without the killing of trees...seriously, the kid is responsible for at least a few trees at this point. But the Didj had me stumped. Luckily at the party we were able to receive the Star Wars game and the helpful hint to just up the kid's grade (which I

Thoughts on feminist motherhood & politics

Sorry for being kinda AWOL around here lately. I've really been busy writing for AWEARNESS this week and will be for the foreseeable future. First, I've been asked to contribute more and since it's a pro-blogger gig and well, two weeks ago my husband quit his job. I can't give the details, but despite the loss of his salary, it was a good thing. I'm very proud of him. He hasn't been slacking at home either, but having many networking lunches almost every day. He even has interviews on Monday and Thursday. We're also waiting to hear back from a few other prospects. I think we're going to be just fine. Last night I took the kid with me to the NW Suburban NOW benefit. It was a small crowd, but it was great time. The president of the chapter has a daughter who is a few months older than the kid. We're gotten them together before, but last night they really hit it off. Maybe being trapped in a bakery with adults does that to 5yos. The kid was back in

EVENT:: Jana Mackey's 1100 Torches Natioanl Campaign Benefit

From my Facebook inbox: JANA MACKEY’S 1100 TORCHES NATIONAL CAMPAIGN BENEFIT Thursday, November 13, 2008 7:30pm - midnight Granada Theater 1020 Massachusetts Street Lawrence, Kansas This event will include a silent auction, live music and dancing to ignite the Eleven Hundred Torches National Campaign. The Michael Hamm jazz quartet will kick off the evening during the silent auction, and Yuca Roots will play a set later in the evening. The parents of Jana Mackey will speak about the campaign’s mission and goals of inspiring people to serve others. To facilitate these goals, several advocacy organizations will be available during the evening to assist attendees in finding their own cause. The mission of the Eleven Hundred Torches campaign is to encourage 1100 people to serve others. Inspired by the life of advocate and activist Jana Mackey, and motivated into action by her death, Eleven Hundred Torches was created to inspire others to make a difference in the world. Ultimately, the c

Feminists for Obama

In case you missed it, Sarah Palin was out and about calling herself a feminist. John McCain blasted left-wing feminists and called Sarah a real feminist. In response, Ellie Smeal of the Feminist Majority is hitting back hard : This week you have lashed out against the "Feminist Left." I understand your frustration. You see that women are not flocking to the McCain/Palin ticket and you don't understand why. Allow me to illuminate you. The truth is, Senator McCain, your candidacy is the worst for women in recent history. You thought that women would vote for you once you put a woman on your ticket. But women aren't fooled by this tactic. Women, Senator McCain, vote on issues important to us, not on whether or not the candidate wears a skirt. The problem, Senator McCain, is your voting record, platform, and policies. You have consistently voted wrong on issues that directly impact American women's bank accounts, personal liberties and health. OUCH! The best part

Where My Girls At?

Alrighty Feminista readers, there are less than 10 days left in the DonorsChoose Blogger Challenge! Thanks to the Working Mom Gourmet for the first and ONLY donation! So, peeps, it's up to the rest of ya. I know that time is tough on all of us, but seriously, I'm asking for you to donate $5. One-two cuppa coffees this week, depending on how you like your java. First the classroom: Mr. B wants this funding ($356 or 71 donors at $5 each) because: My students need to see 27 examples of women writers who are creating fiction that is captivating and relevant to their lives. I encourage the young women in my class to be leaders, and I am confident that they can help me make reading cool. These books will be used in future classes, so your $5 will live on for years to come. Next the thank you gifts: I have been able to get a few fellow feministas to donate some items as swag for people who donate. If you donate at least $5, your name will go into a drawing for the following it

Explaining my freelance work to the kid

My daughter is still in the phase of her life where I'm actually pretty cool (well, except when she's at school), so I try to share as much about myself with her as I can. So when my copy of Ms. came in the mail yesterday I showed her that mommy was in the magazine. *dumb, dumb dumb* "Mommy, read me what you wrote!" She asked with a huge smile. "Umm...sometimes mommy writes things that are for grown-ups." "Well just read me a part of it." *Mommy scans her book review for one sentence without rape or sexuality.* "Umm...You know how mommy always tells you that your body is yours. That no one has permission to touch you? (She nods) Well two women asked other people to write stories about how we can keep others from touching their bodies." "So, what do they do?" She asks with concern. "Well, a lot of things, sometimes it is saying "NO!" and sometimes they hit them." "Oh, well, you should always say,

Feeling sick kid? Suck it up

My daughter got some sort of cold the 3rd or 4th week of school. It was something that I thought wasn't bad enough that she needed to stay home, some Tylenol and she seemed much better. We had been thru bouts like this when she was in her pre-school/day care just a few months ago. Well, for two days she was totally wiped out by lunch time. Her fever would spike back up by dismissal around 3 pm and when I would pick her up, she was in very sad shape. What as the difference? NO SCHOOL NURSE. OK, the school does have one, but like many schools in Illinois and around the country, there isn't a full-time nurse anymore . The Illinois Administrative Code mandates that nurses working at schools must be registered professionals. The code requires school boards develop and keep a job description of a school nurse's duties. The code also talks about preventing communicable diseases, maintaining health records, conducting vision and hearing screenings, and acting as a liaison b

PUMA kittens?

The Scholastic Presidential Election results are in and Obama is the winner! The kids have only been wrong twice in history...and no, it wasn't the last two elections. Odd, eh? Out of 250,000 votes, 4% of the kids wrote in people including *drumroll* Hillary Clinton (11% of the write in vote). 1,100 students out there voiced their allegiance to Senator Clinton. While the focus of the results will be on Obama's winning, does the fact that 1,100 students still voted for Clinton (most likely the most serious write-in candidate given) mean that there's a small group of future voters who are just plain unsatisfied with Obama and McCain? Perhaps. Could this signal that 1,100 students around the country are still loyal to Clinton and what her vision of America? Perhaps. We may never know why they voted the way they did, but I love that Scholastic reports the write-ins. Here in Illinois, we can't draft a candidate from the people. They have to accept that draft for our writ

Work it, Mom! Monday

This week's post asks you to weigh in on whether or not it is appropriate for motherhood to be the center of one's politics. It's not if you can't be a mom and be political, but if you center your political activity around being a mom aka Cindy Sheehan. Or even if you center your politics around just being an advocate for your kids aka the uber-PTA mom. ============== Don't forget that VLF is participating in the DonorsChoose Blogger Challenge . We already have one class funded, let's get that second one funded! The teacher is requesting funding to buy books by women authors. Also don't forget that I'm giving out goodies to a few select peeps who donate !


Early voting has started in Illinois and many other states around the country. To help you out with your decisions, organizations have put out their endorsements and recommendations. Personal PAC [ printable voter guide ] AAUW Voter Guides - They have state guides! Planned Parenthood Congressional Scorecard NOW PAC Voting Guide - Also by states There are plenty of voter guides out there to help you especially with your local races in case you haven't been paying as much attention. I know it's hard, I often fall flat on those races especially since here in Illinois we have to vote for judges. But don't use the "I don't know who to vote for!" line as an excuse. We all have less than 3 weeks, so do your research now. And if you need to know why you should go out and vote, watch this: ============== Don't forget that VLF is participating in the DonorsChoose Blogger Challenge . We already have one class funded, let's get that second one funded! The

Saturday Blog Soup

As you all know, I'm a busy chica and I pile up a lot of things that I want to share with you. In lieu of a series of blog posts, here are the highlights: EVENT:: The 3rd annual Grrrlz Rock! Concert Series . The largest event of its kind that we know of, nearly 50 female-led bands, speakers, dancers, filmmakers and comedians dominate the stage and inspire audiences through the month of November. Grrrlz Rock! is a movement of collaboration and connection. Acts get a chance to play for new audiences and female musicians get a chance to meet each other and learn from each other's experiences. This is in Eugene, Oregon. EVENT:: Feminist Ecology: Women and the Earth Exhibition Opening ~ Tuesday, October 28, 5 - 8 p.m. Exhibition ongoing through November 7 Koehnline Museum of Art, Oakton Community College, Des Plaines campus Sponsored by the Women’s and Gender Studies Program at Oakton, this juried exhibition features art by women artists from across the Midwest. Meet and talk w

Don't miss the fall issue of Ms. Magazine!

And it is not just because Suze Orman is on the cover with that rock star smile of hers. Why should you pick it up? BECAUSE I AM IN IT! My review of Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape , edited by Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti is in there! OK, sorry I keep screaming, but I can't believe that in the last six months my writing (and not a letter to the editor) has been in both Bitch and Ms . You have to pick up the issue or wait for it to find your doorstep to read the full review, but I want to give some mega kudos to the four of the many authors who bowled me over. Lisa Jervis, Latoya Peterson, Cristina Meztli Tzintzun, and fellow Bronco Kate Harding. Don't take the fact that I know three of these fab writers as bias. First I'd never kiss Lisa's ass, she could see right thru it. While Kate & I did go to high school together we didn't hang in the same circles. As for Latoya, well, she'd kick my ass if I lied about he

Gifted students and challenge: A parent talk with Jerry Schecter, PhD

This is a cross-post from Hormone-colored Days : I'm blogging a gathering at Kim's place with Jerry Schecter, Ph.D . Despite what Kim says, this is a party...A party of parents, mostly moms & one lone dad, coming together to learn more about how to "best" raise our children who have academic gifts. Dr. S's background includes being a school psychologist in CPS and was at the ground floor for the CPS gifted program. He helped work with underachieving gifted students - those who can do the work, but weren't. Dr. S's definition of a gifted kid is someone with an IQ in the upper 5-10% of the population. That's one way, but more typically we are talking about upper 2% - 130 and above. Upper 5% - 125, you are bright, quick and still relate well. When you get to 140 - you are a little bit more different - harder to fit in, see the world differently, get labeled as ADD 'cause their minds are racing. You should ask the school if your child is "

What to Buy Wednesday – Dinner

wow...16 weeks of me giving y'all suggestions on things to buy mamas and babies? I can't believe I came up with all those suggestions. For reals. Alas, this is my last regular suggestion for what to buy. If you've been reading regularly I've gotten pretty busy with other blogging & writing gigs, that something had to give. I hope that I've given you enough guidance that you can walk into the baby aisle and think, "What would V think? Is this really necessary?" Don't fret, if I get hit by inspiration, I'll post another suggestion. So my last suggestion for something that a mom and her baby will NEED is a gift certificate for dinner. And yes, it really should be for some place that delivers. This gift idea came from a couple who did this for us. After our daughter was born, they called us up and asked us what night we wanted dinner delivered and from where. Perhaps you know that your BFF loves Thai from that place down the street or you know s

Happy Love Your Body Day!

To celebrate I will attempt 24 hours of not hating on my own body: I will enjoy the moment when the kid wraps her arms around my belly and says, "I love you mommy because you are squishy!" I will have a good hair day, no matter what. I will enjoy using my body to garden (project at work!). I will sit up straight. I will smile because I'm happy not because someone tells me to. I will eat without guilt, even if I watch my portions. What will you do for yourself today?

Work it, Mom and DonorsChoose GIVEAWAYS!

Today at Work it, Mom! I'm complaining about Columbus Day. Also, if you haven't noticed, but I joined the DonorsChoose Blogger Challenge . Thanks to the generosity of one reader & a good friend, one class is fully funded. BUT we still have $356 to go to fully fund Mr. B's classroom and their goal of buying books by women authors: My students need to see 27 examples of women writers who are creating fiction that is captivating and relevant to their lives. I encourage the young women in my class to be leaders, and I am confident that they can help me make reading cool. I'm not sure that by getting the girls to love reading that the boys will follow, but I do agree that the young women in his class need women authors to discover. I have the following giveaways for anyone who donates at least $5 thru my donors page by the end of the month: A copy of Ellen Bravo 's Taking on the Big Boys Why Feminism is Good for Families, Business, and the Nation A copy