Writing at the intersection of motherhood, feminism and my Latinidad

31 August 2009

woo-wee! Is this journalism or what!?

Dear Goddess has life been a whirlwind lately!

I need a better strategy on posting my Awearness posts over here. I think I'm going to try...try to post them on the same day over here instead of a list of posts. But until then, here's a list of posts!

Saturday I went to a community blogging meeting and it was, well, interesting. I say that not to say I didn't like it. I did. It made me think..a lot.

For one a lot of the conversation was about how to make money off our blogs. Which was a great thread for people who run more news-worthy blogs not personal blogs like mine. But at the Association for Women Journalist panel I spoke on last month, many in the crowd thought this blog was news worthy for my opinion pieces. So yes, I found myself smack dab in the middle of a "Big J" versus blogging versus just a website debate. And honestly I'm done with that conversation.

I'm done because I know that there are sites out there like Gapers Block which is about news. You don't come here to find out what's up in my neighborhood. But sometimes my opinion is framed by living in Chicago, by the news that happens around me and whether or not that is journalism or news isn't up to me. I say it's up to you.

It's funny that I feel like there are two forces pushing me to even consider making money off this blog - the phenomena of mommy blogging & all the free trips to Disney and journalists/community blogging. That said, I know that big mouthed feminists aren't the target audience for advertisers.

So here I am, giving you my opinion for free...well at least here. And for now. If you see me in real life, feel free to toss $10 in my pocket. ;-)

And yes, I know this was quite a rambly post! It's past midnight peeps! I need to get to bed. Night. xoxo

29 August 2009

Racism at Wrigley

I do admit that it's hard to take allegations of racism seriously when they are brought up by a player whom I think isn't playing his best and compares a blow-out to one of the most well-known incidents of police brutality. I take my baseball seriously and any lolly-gagging on the field puts you on my shit list. But when Milton Bradley let loose last week, I needed little time to come to the conclusion that I believe him.

As a die-hard Cubs fan, I don't think we're all racists - check that, I do think all people are racist to some degree. Think back to the last time you double checked that your car doors were locked or double clutched your purse. Yeah, I'm guilty too. But are we Cub Nation a bunch of hate-filled racists? No. Do we take our baseball seriously and act without thinking? Yes. We say things at the ball park we might not say in our living rooms, we throw cups of beer on the field and sometimes at players, and we boo as if Charlie Brown is playing all 9 positions. Do we ever take it too far? I'd say yes. Are the hate comments Bradley coming from a very small percentage of Cub "fans" that aren't representative of us as a whole? Hell yes. But it doesn't mean that it isn't happening and isn't something that needs to be addressed.

I do think that incidents are fewer than Bradley suggests, yet far more than most of the Chicago sports media wants to admit. And I get that. First of all Wrigley is a destination. It tries to play off as family friendly and racist comments don't fit into that picture. And I believe this is why we have Billy Williams and Lou Pinella telling Bradley to just ignore the comments. Thankfully Neil Hayes admits that we have a problem at Wrigley:
Sixty-two years after Jackie Robinson broke the color barrier, it would be nice to think we have moved beyond the hateful and ignorant words that occasionally still spill out of the stands. Evidently, we haven't. Sadly enough, Bradley's home ballpark has a reputation for such ugliness, leaving him with little choice but to do what Robinson did and turn the ugly utterances into motivation. Bradley can honor the great man by distilling the taunts into a propellant that will lift his game to a level that will silence racists and win over critics.

But is silencing racists by playing hard the real answer? No. It's just a band-aid. I don't think that Wrigley is the only place to find racist sport fans. But the theory that if Bradley just plays harder will alleviate racist or hate filled remarks just admits that it's happening. Because once there is a slump Bradley will go from being our fan fave to just another n*****.

I also think that some of us have a hard time with this because Cub fans like to think that we're better than that. We're smarter than that. We're educated people...Educated people aren't racist! Um, no.

Monday night CubbieJulie is having a special podcast to discuss the racism issue. Sadly I'll miss it since I'll be at that night's game with my plate of nachos and depending on the weather a beer. Oh yes, I still love my Cubbies despite the jerks who keep coming to the park and the ones who play on the field.

22 August 2009

The Gender Police is still alive and well

While my husband is quite the feminist, he's not an academic one or one who seeks out a lot of feminist theory. Who can blame him? He's got me! But seriously, watching his growth as a feminist is one of the most touching things in my life. Adding our daughter to the equation has heightened his feminist spidey sense.

Our daughter had long hair until Saturday. I took her in to get a back to school cut, which should had been a bob up to her chin. It looks more like a long pixie cut. OMG, it is super cute! But to her it's a tragedy. We've done all we can do to help her feel better about her hair, but I'm sure you know what it feels like to have a bad cut or bad hair on picture day.

She hasn't told us so, but her camp counselor told my husband that the boys are teasing her about her hair. "You look like a boy!" is their main chant. This led to a discussion about teasing, boys and gender. Sadly I have to admit that we immediately think "What are those boys' parents teaching them?" But I quickly recall that gendered expectations are pervasive in our sexist society. Girls|Boys, there is no in between.

Despite all the feministy parenting I perform each day, my daughter still remarked at a Chicago Red Stars game, "She looks like a boy!" as she pointed to a player. *sigh* Heck in pre-school we went thru a period when she *had* to wear a skirt or dress because "or else I'll look like a boy!"

I don't recall going thru a time when anyone questioned my gender. Heck, I grew up when it was pretty much an insult to be called a girl. I wasn't a girl! I was a tomboy. But my tough girly girl is going thru such a moment and it's breaking her heart. And thus our hearts.

Even the toughest and biggest of girls get their hearts broken when their gender is questioned. AND IT FUCKING SUCKS!

There are times when I think that it would had been great to be a girl today. Where we were so post-Title IX that women make up over 50% of college students, we closed the math gap in high school and we play sports the way my friends & I use to play school. Girls can do all this and still walk out of the locker room wearing lipstick and a cute skirt.

But gosh darn it, despite all our progress on what we expect from girls, we still want them to LOOK like girls. No matter how strong we get, we still need to look good in that evening gown at the ESPYs. We take pictures of professional women athletes wearing lipstick, with their pregnant bellies (cause ya know, lesbians don't get pregnant) or wearing nothing at all. We do this because we need to know that despite their strength, they are still "just girls" underneath it all.

But my daughter's hair will grow. In fact I bet it's at an acceptable length by the time school starts. I'll watch the stylist's scissors better next time - heck I'm thinking of finding a new stylist for her. Others are going thru gender issues that are far more difficult and can't be solved with a trip to Claire's for a hot pink headband with peace symbols.

I do wonder what my daughter will take from this experience. Will she finally believe me that there really isn't anything like "boys hair and girls hair?" Or will this reinforce the fact that if you step out of line the gender police will stop you, whether you are 6, 16 or 26?

I know those in my life wonder why I'm so touchy when I hear them say things like "that's a girl thing" or "boys just don't write as well." Gender is fluid and gender roles are as well. No matter how many boys you know who just won't sit still, when you say that "all boys need to get up and run around" you are doing an injustice to the boy who likes to sit and read. No matter how many girls you know who do better in reading, there is that one girl you are overlooking who kicks math's ass. When we say girls do this and boys do that, yet the girl or boy listening doesn't how do you think that makes them feel?

Let's work together to free all our girls and all our boys from the gender police.

21 August 2009

Vote for these SXSW panels

First the two panels I'm on:

Now some awesome proposals from my friends:
edited to add:
From El Blog:

Below the sessions related to the Hispanic market. Vote early and vote often!
TWO MORE from Kety at the National Council of La Raza::
And one more I saw on Twitter:
So what are you waiting for? Start clicking thru this list (I hope to add more proposals of awesome women & allies) and click the thumbs up! Also leave a comment, if you have time, about why you think that panel should be on the agenda next year. I have seen on Twitter people say that comments almost count more than votes. So please take a moment to comment on your fave panel ideas. Thank you!!

Think I should have you on this list? Leave a comment with your info. Feminists, women of color and BFFs are welcome. Others, tell me why I should lobby for your vote.

Voting ends September 4, 2009.

Want to know more about the voting and how much your vote matters? Click here!

19 August 2009

Mujeres it's time to step up to the plate

Did you know that:
  • Nearly three of 10 Latinos, including recent immigrants, were dropouts (27.5 percent) [cite];
  • Forty-one percent of Latinas do not graduate from high school on time with a standard diploma [cite]
  • 53 percent become pregnant before age 20. [cite]
So if a Latina can work her way thru high school and get into college, she should be able to go. But often we can't afford to go. That is why Rosie Molinary has set up Circle de Luz:

This fall, Circle de Luz will select the second Circle de Luz class from the seventh grade class at Ranson Middle School in Charlotte, North Carolina. From September 2009 until the girls reach high school graduation, Circle de Luz supports them with mentoring and comprehensive programming to help them achieve their goal of graduating from high school and pursuing further education. When they graduate from high school and enroll in the educational opportunity of their choice, Circle de Luz awards them with a minimum of a $5,000 scholarship provided to them by women, called M’ijas, from all over the country that pool their resources in a giving circle for the six years the girls are finishing their secondary education. M’ijas can have any background and can live anywhere. They make a commitment to donate a minimum of $90 a year for six years to the scholarship fund that will support the Class of 2015’s Hijas (our scholarship recipients who are selected as seventh graders).

Can you be a M'ija? Can you commit to giving $90 for the next six years? Or heck, give it all ($540) if you can!

Rosie is looking for 20 new women to commit by MONDAY! So take a day or two to think and then act...if you can. Rosie even accepts the donation in two payments.

And Rosie? I'm committing to it right now.

To learn more about Circle de Luz and read about the fab things that Rosie is doing with these young mujeres, please visit their blog.

18 August 2009

Wise Latina Mania!

Last Friday I attended the National Hispana Leadership Institute's Empowerment Conference. Teresa Puente did a great job summarizing the day's events. The turnout was far smaller than I would have expected, but in the end, it was perfect. We went thru 2 workshops that couldn't have occured with a full ballroom of Latinas. I have to admit that it was a bit odd to walk into a room and have about four people tell me congrats for being in Crains the week before.

The day was great and I got to meet and reconnect with Latinas in Chicago. We really do need more chances to gather like that.

I even picked up my first "wise latina" shirt from the Wise Latina Project. I say first because I still need to grab one that says "I trust wise latinas" and maybe one of a few others I've run across.

Here are a few of the things I learned on Friday:
  • Latinas make LESS today than the average woman made in 1960 compared to the average man. And we have only gained 5 cents in almost 50 years.
    In 1960, women made 60 cents to a man's dollar, Latinas 54 cents
    Today, women make 78 cents, Latinas 59 cents
  • The NHLI Executive Leadership Training program is very competitive (yes, I've thought of applying, but it's also very expensive) and State Farm has sent 14 women, the most of any company.
  • The new Ford Taurus is designed by a Latina
  • Women own 70% of small businesses in the world
  • Women are 46.5% of the US labor force, 12% of them are Latinas
  • 50.8% of employed women are in management, 3.6% of them are Latinas
  • In the 2008 election there were 69M voters, 6.2M were Latinas (54% of the total Hispanic/Latino vote)
  • Despite being a political force, we are not reflected in political power positions:
    * US Senate has 17 women, ZERO Latinas
    * US House has 73 women, 6 Latinas
    * 50 Governors, 8 women, ZERO Latinas
    * 21 Cabinet members, 8 women, 1 Latina
  • Women's spending "power" is $7 trillion, Latinas $1 trillion
    * And why don't more companies ask Latinas to review their products?
There's more to tell ya, but I gotta cut this short for tonight.

14 August 2009

Is it racist to want a Mexican chef to make my Mexican food?

I tweeted that question yesterday because I seriously wanted a good discussion about it. Teresa Puente had posted at Chicago Now about being tired of hearing about Rick Bayless being this expert on Mexican food. The comments immediately went into calling her a racist. I wanted a higher level of discussion. Thankfully Amy gave me one. I wasn't calling Teresa a racist and I apologize if my tweet came off as that.

Teresa asked:
Something just bugged me that a white guy was gaining so much fame for his Mexican cuisine. I'm sure his love of Mexico is genuine and he does good charity work. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, and he is a great chef. But why does the media make him the spokesman for Mexican food in the United States?
And hear are my thoughts. I haven't watched many of Rick's shows and I've caught a few of Anthony Bourdain's show (especially the Chicago episode where you can catch Cinnamon in one scene).

*deep breath*

I can't shake the feeling when watching them wander through Mexico and far off countries that these sophisticated white dudes are trying to tell us what is authentic and what isn't. As if they are Marco Polo's of food searching for the most authentic food to bring back to the States.

I've heard or read comments classifying Bourdain as a food anthropologist. I kinda get that.

Honestly I'm torn.

As I tweeted to Amy, I'm not a foodie. I like my food fairly simple, thus the idea of gourmet Mexican food makes me itch. And maybe I just don't understand what Bayless and Bourdain are trying to do with their shows. There are few areas where I feel totally lacking in knowledge to comment on and food is one of them.

So I'm still torn about how I feel about all of this. It's all a mental exercise for me at this point. Stretching my brain to figure it all out.

13 August 2009

Weigh that media request carefully!

At Blogher, I was asked to blog more about the Progressive Women's Voices trainings and what I learned so that others can benefit.

About 8 years ago I got a call asking me to appear on "Hannity & Colmes" but the problem was that I really didn't have much media experience, I had never seen the show and I was scared shitless. I called Jenn Pozner up and she talked me down. We went thru talking points, but she also talked to me about the power of no. "You don't have to accept every call that comes in."

That lesson was hammered into us during the Progressive Women's Voices trainings. PWV trainees receive a one page sheet of questions to ask when you get a media call then you tell the person that you will call them back in 5 minutes. Why is this important? Because you need time to think if this opportunity is really good for you. Not just if you are the expert needed or not, but if this will be good for you.

Example 1 of bad experience: Marisa of Latina Lista had a horrible experience on CNN and I'm grateful that she blogged about it. She asked the right questions, but still had a bad experience. The lesson I took from it was that if you're going to be live on CNN or any channel, prepare for the worst. Marisa asked if it would be a confrontation style debate and they said lied to her about it.

Example 2 of um, maybe you didn't need to say yes: Sheena Williams was profiled on CBS2Chicago about mommy blogging and the controversy about them accepting free products for review and that sometimes they get paid to review products. In the video you can see that she was set up to look bad. The questions were leading her down a road to look bad. She was also opposite Alma Klein who was cast as "the blogger with integrity."

I don't know Sheena, but she seems like just about every other mom blogger I know, just trying to get by in this world. A nice woman who stumbled into this jackpot of blogola. So I feel for her. But again, the story was set up to pit Alma and Sheena against each other. I won't even get into the racial implications. But I should say that this is one of the few times I've seen a mom of color blogger in a media story and well, Sheena is cast as the selfish/lying blogger.

But that's how many of the mom blogger stories have been cast. As mom bloggers are just doing it for the free swag. Kim told them of how most of us are in it for the community, but it apparently wasn't juicy enough.

Example 3 of really? Your first appearance is on Hardball? Katy Abram asked Sen. Spector a question at a townhall meeting one day and found herself on Hardball the next. While she did hold her own a good chunk of the interview and even corrected guest host Lawrence O'Donnell. But he went easy on her, you can tell. Oh yes, I think he ripped apart her concerns by drilling her on her apparent apathy towards politics through the commencement of two wars and was only awoken when POTUS decides to inject cash into the economy and correct the shame that we call health care in this country. I kinda felt bad for her, but then again, perhaps she's decided to ride this baby as far as it will go since she called up Glenn and cried to him about Dems harassing her.

But I suspect that most of us wouldn't be as lucky if our first big media appearance was Hardball.

I'm still learning and feeling my way around this media thing. In the past few weeks I've hit the media jackpot, but I know it won't last. But the fact that I've had a lot of media appearances made me stop and think, "Is this too much? Am I over exposing myself? Am I doing valuable things?" The answer to the last question is yes, right now I am. I'm glad that I made myself think to evaluate what I was doing. I don't want to just do a media call to do a media call. I am trying to set myself up as someone who should be on the short list when you need a Latina/woman/person to speak on feminism/feminist mothering/feminist mom blogging/blogging/momblogging/women in science/education equity.

What are your media goals? Not to get on Oprah, but what do you want the media to think of you as? To me that's your goal, the appearances are how you will get there.

As I said, I'm still learning, so I'd love to hear what you think on this.

Oh and in the end, I didn't do Hannity. I was going to do the show because someone else couldn't, but that someone else did end up doing it. Whew!

10 August 2009

Welcome Diego Mulligan listeners!

It was a pleasure to be on Diego Mulligan's show, The Journey Home, this evening.

Diego & I spent a lot of time chatting about health care reform and mom blogs, so I thought that I'd pull up a few recent posts on health care on a few of my favorite mom blogs:


Thanks for visiting!

09 August 2009

How O'Reilly perfects the back handed compliment

In this weekend's Parade magazine, Bill O'Reilly writes a piece entitled, "What President Obama Can Teach America's Kids." When I saw that, I thought, "Huh?" But then I read it and wow...Can the man write a nice backhanded compliment!

The disruption of the traditional American family is also adversely affecting millions of children. Right now, almost 22 million American kids are living with one parent; more than 80% of those are being raised primarily by Mom. Just 50 years ago, a child living without a father was somewhat of a rarity. Now it’s an epidemic.

Ah...the set up. He's not talking to all American kids, but only those who are being raised by mom alone!

Lesson One: Forgiveness
President Obama was just 2 when his father abandoned him and his mother in Hawaii. Four years later, his mother took her little son to Indonesia after she remarried... So when Barry, as he was called, turned 10, he was sent back to Hawaii to live with his grandparents while his mother stayed abroad. ..He does not harbor bitterness toward his parents. Instead, he accepted his situation and saw it as a challenge. He forgave his folks and embraced a positive outlook.

Egads! Not only was he abandoned by his father, but his mother sent him to live with his grandparents...abandoning him too! Bill neglects the fact that Obama's mom was working on her PhD and if I recall correctly, Obama wanted out of Indonesia as well. Plus the schools were better in Hawaii. It's been awhile since I read "Dreams from my Father." Please correct me if I am misremembering.

Lesson Two: Respect
Even though his mom and dad apparently put their needs ahead of his, he speaks of them in mostly affectionate terms. He finds a way not to demean them

Well isn't that big of the POTUS?! And shame on his parents for putting their needs ahead of their precious child...OMG, I'm going to puke. I'm not going to attempt to figure out Obama's dad's reasons, but again, his mom was working on her PhD. Thus I firmly believe that Obama's mom made the best decision for Obama and herself. It must have pained her to let him leave her, but as my favorite non-custodial parent will tell you, sometimes letting the kid go is the most loving decision.

Lesson three is the pivotal lesson in the essay. The dig isn't as harsh but starts to turn the article into something that is almost worthy of reading to my daughter.

Yes, Barack Obama is *the* poster child for "Don't whine kid, keep on moving!" But also for affirmative action. For loving families. For single mothers who need a few villages to help raise the kids. For so many things. But we don't need to disparage his mother in order to teach kids a lesson. Any child of color knows that we have a disadvantage from the get go. All Obama had to do was win without being a member of a political dynasty family and he was a tale to tell.

And yes, as a working and politically active mother, I find the thinly veiled jabs at his mother as jabs at all of us who "put our needs (work, intellectual stimulation, etc) ahead of (our kids)."

Oh, why oh why did Parade ask or let Bill write this? I assume that this must be one of those "we can be civil, can't we?" moments, but really?

08 August 2009

Another magazine another photoshopped woman

Seriously, why do magazines think that we won't notice? Or are they truly going with the "a photo is just the beginning of our art project" theory? Because if photos are just an art project for them, then just fucking say it.

This time around Kelly Clarkson is the winner of the photoshop diet.

self-GMA-clarkson

We've seen this done to plenty of other women in Hollywood, including my favorite America Ferrera. Kelly Clarkson's weight has been an issue since her "American Idol" days and she seems to have weathered all the talk very well and with all the confidence most of us wish we had when it came to our bodies. That must be why "Self" wanted to feature her in their magazine. But why then would they photoshop her multiple sizes down? Even looking at the 'behind-the-scenes' video you can see that Kelly's arms are larger in real life. "Self" comments that, "Our picture shows her confidence and beauty," which reveals to me that they admit that they photoshopped the hell out of her, but hey she still oozes confidence!

Instead of pining over what corporate America wants us to look like, even when we love our bodies, I want to mention a new blog that I learned about at Blogher 2009: we are the REAL deal. It's a body image blog whose core bloggers include the amazing Claire Mysko, Kate Harding, and Roni of RoniWeigh. It looks like a great site to gather to discuss how we came to hate our bodies, what some of us are doing to love ourselves, how we can get to be healthy and all that body loving stuff.

This is cross-posted at Feministe

05 August 2009

This is why we need more women in media

In the last six months or so, Chicago has had its fair share of townhalls and gatherings trying to figure out what the heck is happening with corporate media. What will happen when the newspapers finally fail? Will they? Where did the journalists go? After the first townhall, that I had to miss, another conference was called. In the lead up to both events, I tweeted my desire to see gender parity on the panels.

My tweets were replied to with “we’re trying!” Apparently most of the kick ass women (and people of color) in Chicago media were busy both days.

I know some people just don’t get it. I know people close to me don’t get it. They don’t understand why women need to be at the freaking table, in the newsroom and holding the editor’s red pen – it’s just as simple as women see things differently. Not better, not worse, just differently.

The latest example is the WaPo “Mouthpiece Theater” fiasco that ended with WaPo pulling the plug. Two men thought that calling the Secretary of State a “bitch” was funny. Not only was it not funny and not because the joke flopped, but it’s old and tired. Seriously, guys can’t you come up with something new? So some of us angry feminists wrote a letter demanding an apology. And gosh darn it, it freaking worked! OK, we didn’t get two full apologies, but hey, no more crappy videos from WaPo…for now.

Now I’m the last person to say you can never use the word “bitch.” I am one. I have friends who are bitches. But it’s all about context and that includes who is wielding the word.

Of course we can’t be sure that if a random woman at WaPo had screened the video before hand would have said, “Dude…We can’t air that.” Why? Because some women, I use to be one of them, know that there is power in being “one of the guys.” You are constantly proving that you need to be where you are and you choose your battles. Is sticking up for Hillary Clinton worth it? Maybe? Maybe not.

But women have different perspectives on things. We know that. And as I said before, it’s DIFFERENT not better, not worse.

If a newspaper decides to go online only, does that mean they will resort to T&A on the website for increased clickage to up the ad revenue ala HuffPo? Some women might be ok with that and others not. But giving their voices a place to be heard is a must.

That’s just one example of how having women at the decision table is important. Is the fact that yet another mass shooting had gender as a focal point important? How are rape stories covered? Are there enough women’s health stories? Is there enough content that is important to women that they even want to read your newspaper? We’re not all looking for fashion and Hollywood gossip. Maybe we’d like to read about our baseball team without having to see strong women athletes treated as pin up girls in the sports pages?

Having more women in the newsroom, in media itself, just might ensure that there is a critical enough mass that if something is offensive to one woman, she’d feel like she could say something.

Crossposted at Feministe

Where I am this week...

Feministe! And here is my post that isn't the intro part:

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You might have read or heard stories coming out of Blogher 2009 about the amount of free shit that was given out. Companies have set their targets on mom bloggers (ok, certain demographically appropriate ones) for this free stuff in the hopes that we are so grateful we’ll write about it and you all will run out and buy it. One of my dear friends, Self-Made Mom, came home and decided to auction her swag pile on eBay:

so in a moment of materialistic Zen, I decided to do something a little rash (for me at least.) I’m auctioning it all off on eBay for charity (The Chicago Abortion Fund.) If you’re pissed you didn’t get Crocs (which aren’t in the bag, btw because I knew I wouldn’t wear them although they looked comfy), or you really want that Little Giraffe neck pillow, or you’re yearning for some more zip drives, PLEASE BID.

The auction is over and the winning bid was $182.50. Isn’t that awesome? A small bag of freebies will have a new home and CAF will have a nice new donation. I hear that someone might be rounding up that check to $300, which is CAF’s average sized grant.

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I'll be there for the next two weeks, so please tip your waiter!

03 August 2009

Birthday weekend

This weekend was my daughter's sixth birthday!

I can't believe she's six already. Where did the time go? Seriously?!

Saturday we had some of her friends & family over for a party. The weather was touch & go, but we were able to get outside for the breaking of the unicorn pinata. Of course, not everyone got a chance to whack the paper fantasy creature as the 3rd kid to really take a turn, the kid's boy BFF, beheaded the unicorn. The funniest part is that the kids didn't know what to do! The candy didn't scatter as the body was still intact. So I ripped it open and the kids went scrambling for the goodies.

Saturday night we want to a Chicago Sky game with family. It was a great game except that the kid is still scared of Sky Guy, so when he brought her cupcakes she didn't take it well.

But overall the weekend was great. And now I'm the mom of a six-year-old with the attitude of a 16-year-old. Wish us luck!