Despite the snarky title, I want to spend this time asking you to please take the time to read ALL of bfp's post on machismo in Mexican culture : Machismo was about putting on a show. About looking really fucking beautiful and representing yourself and your ‘group’ (whether it was a music group, like the mariachis above, or the dancers or bull fighters of old etc) well. It was about attracting a love interest (as in the song above) or demonstrating your bravery. It was about tapping into an ancient past that was strong enough to build a bright future. It was something you did together as a community–how do you show off if there is nobody to watch? But most importantly, machismo was something that you stopped–you took it off and put it away for special occasions. If the special is used every day, then it’s no longer special, right? That's all! xoxo
First, I'm soooo glad that I wasn't the only person traumatized by "The Dark Knight." My husband still wants to debate it with me, but I still am unsure of how I feel. And dear goddess, why did you have to take Heath!? Anywho, go read Sarah Seltzer's take on Mama Mia - warning - chock full of spoilers. The Mr. is a huge ABBA fan, so we'll end up seeing this...perhaps once it is a $5 movie . And I can't wait!!
Now that title should get me some real traffic from the search engines! haha... Seriously, I can't tell you which nipple, bottle, or pacifier to buy for your lil one. I say that because I really feel that each baby has its own preference. To illustrate this, let me tell you a story... Five years ago I was home on maternity leave and poking at my belly. "Hurry up baby! We're wasting precious maternity leave time!" At the same time I was tidying up, getting all the bottles set, onesies washed, etc. The bottles were all cute Winnie the Pooh bottles. While I knew I was going to breast feed, I also knew that the new Papa was going to do bottle duty. What I didn't plan on was that missy was going to be picky about her bottle nipple AND her pacifier. I think that we went thru at least 3-4 different bottles before landing on the Avent nipple. Which let me tell ya really sucked because I had bought the Medela breast pump. If you don't know, the breast pumps FIT the
This September Chicago will launch Science Chicago . A whole year's worth of sciencey goodness around the city. Check out the website, sign up for updates, and keep an eye out here when I'll promote events I'll be at! Hey, this science nrrd isn't missing this!
Blogher has come and gone. The swag has been taken, sorted, trashed or given away. Trinkets and real useful items emblazoned with corporate logos weighed down the shoulders of Bloger attendees. While I did not go myself, there was no lack of swag posts in the momosphere. Last year I gobbled up as much as I could and even made a swag care package for Amy. This year the swag appeared to have jumped a notch or two. One team of mommy bloggers even road tripped their way to Blogher complete with a hybrid Chevy Tahoe and a list of corporate sponsors, including CBS News which got current mom blogger BFF Katie Couric to tape a welcome message for Blogher. As I find myself deeper and deeper in this blogging thing and as I get more and more emails for products and promotions (NOTE: Stop emailing me at my work! That's what the contact me link is for!), I make myself stop and consider the ramifications. No, I don't think that mommy bloggers are any less smart than techies, music reviewe
If you recall, I reviewed " Piper Reed Navy Brat " way back in December. I've just been alerted that August is Piper Reed month! Why? 1. Piper Reed Navy Brat came out in paperback this week 2. Piper Reed the Great Gypsy releases on August 19 3. There will be at least six Piper Reed books 4. Each week in August there will be a Piper giveaway 5. Educators will be eligible for the drawing of a classroom set of Piper Reed Navy Brat Head on over to the Jambalaya blog and get all the details!
I'm suffering from quite the hang over from the PWV training. It didn't help that after my husband picked me up from O'Hare that we went to see "The Dark Knight." But I do want to let you know that tomorrow's Work it, Mom! - Moms on Issues post will be my interview with Hannah Storm. YES! I got to interview Hannah Storm! And I set it all up. Emailed the PR folks and all. Yes, I'm kick ass. Actually the ESPN folks were super kewl to work with, so I'd say that they were kick ass in working with this interview newbie. I'm also working on a piece that's been rumbling thru my head for weeks about the business of mommy blogging, integrity, respect, and expectations. Look for that Tuesday...I hope. Wednesday will bring another edition of "What to Buy" for all the preggy chicks out there. And despite Twitter rumors, I'm not preggers. Did I mention I had a nightmare about that? Seriously, now is not a good time. Thursday I hope to have a b
I'm exhausted...mostly mentally. I also feel incredibly lame for being in my hotel room in NYC watching "Swingtown." Today we worked on messaging. How to create our message and how to tighten it. We also took turns doing an on camera interview. As soon as I sat down for mine I knew I was doomed. The first question asked was one that I normally trip over, mostly because I have about 5 different answers for it. I didn't know which one to use and of course I went with the most awkward/hard to say in a concise way. It took me awhile to warm up to the interview as well. While watching myself later was one of the more awkward things I've ever done, the room was filled with uber-supportive women. They all gave some fab feedback on how to strengthen my message. I knew a lot of the things that were "taught" to us today, as did many of my classmates. The difference was going thru the activities together, getting & giving feedback, and of course having all o
Here are a few good posts that discuss both questions: Womenstake takes on how the Census ignores same-sex marriages Nancy Polikoff cusses how Ohio leaves out same-sex couples from the otherwise progressive move towards paid sick leave.
OK, nothing's happened yet. But I wanted to post this photo of my kick ass shoes I bought for this weekend. They match my dress perfectly. Aren't ya jealous? Don't be. They're from Target...$23.99. You can have them too. I put some gel insoles in them. Cross your fingers that they don't kill my feet! I'm off to the first day of training and we end after dinner tonight. But first, I think I need to fuel up at Starbucks.
A good friend told me about a co-worker of hers who has been bringing her daughter to work. At first my friend thought the daughter was in trouble, grounded, etc. No...the mom is giving her daughter a few days off from some relentless harassment. Apparently this 12yo girl kissed a boy. That fact was posted to MySpace and well, it's all over the gawd damn place. Now the boys around her think she's a total slut and go in for kisses because, well if she kissed one guy, she'll kiss them all! *sigh* I won't go into vast details, but let's just say that I was in a similar position at about the same age because I didn't kiss a certain guy. I am dense people. I still am. I don't know you're hitting on me until you go in for the kiss or buy me a drink. It's not because I haven't dated since high school, it's because I'm dense. That said, I was too dense to know the guy I was crushing on wanted a kiss one night. He told a bunch of people I was a
Brutal Women had an awesome post about Sarah Conner & other women who kick ass. This is even more interesting in light of Joss' recent Dr. Horrible series and the lack of a strong woman. Damn...lost the link to someone's good critique. If you know of one, please leave in the comments! I don't have much else to add...just giving ya all a good things to mull over. Maybe I'll name my new laptop Ripley. Sarah reminds me of the girls I went to high school with and well...
The item I miss using the most from when my daughter was a baby is the baby sling & the Bjorn. I miss having her so close to me; I miss her being small enough to fit into the darn things! Now baby slings are associated with granola moms or attachment parenting. Sure, they strap their babies to them, but I have to tell you, you are going to want to have that carrier, especially if the baby comes during nice weather (spring – fall). I put my daughter in the Bjorn to take a walk, to walk around the apartment to get her to sleep, and well anytime I wanted to use both my hands, I put her in there. My daughter certainly lived up to the theory that babies like to be close to you. Heck, she's almost five and she still wants to be next to us. I also used a wrap sling. It wasn't as easy to use as the Bjorn, but I'm sure that was because I didn't use it enough to learn all the tricks. In the end, the carrier was quite a life saver. So send your friend this perfect gift.
Apologies for not posting until today, but Monday was jam packed with work & fun. You can see this week's Work it, Mom post where I ponder whether or not moms really can be green. Being a mom myself I know that convenient-sized items really do make a difference in my life. Can I cut them out? Can others? I also posted to Chicago Parent about why I applied to the Progressive Women's Voices program. I am freaking about what to wear this weekend. Thankfully I did get a haircut on Friday, a new work tote on Sunday, I'm getting my nails done today, and Cinnamon's putting the finishing touches on a new purse for me. Um yeah…I was already in the process of a "grown up make-over" and this trip just put that plan into high gear. I love my totes & messenger bags I do have (seriously, see how loved they are!), but I know that I needed to upgrade for work. And this video is sooooo me. Love it!
If you could be 13 again, would you? I would if I could bring You're Amazing! A No-Pressure Guide to Being Your Best Self by Claire Mysko with me. I'm not exaggerating or sucking up to Claire, whom I met at WAM!. I don't think high school would had been too much different, but I would had felt far less lonely. Mysko discusses body image, stress and stereotypes with the sensitivity of a loving big sister or that cool older cousin. She opens each chapter with data from the Girls Inc. The Supergirl Dilemma report (Girls Inc produced this book). While it is a source of many depressing moments (e.g. 84% of girls said that girls are under a lot of pressure to dress the right way.), it does set a starting point. Mysko goes on to discuss strategies for the girls in order to overcome obstacles and meet challenges. She also includes conversation starters for approaching trusted adults. The book is frank and doesn't talk down to the girls. Like any good "self-help&q
It's really, really weird to not be at the NOW conference this year. I started going to them in 2004, so it's not like I'm a veteran who has been going for decades...but still. I always look forward to them as I get to see friends whom I usually only get to see once a year. One of them is BAC from Yikes! I'm sure that BAC will do a good job at keeping us all informed on what's going on over there. BAC has already covered the Intrepid awards as well as a keynote. I did get to see a bit of the awards on CBS 2 this morning because Katie Couric (the woman is everywhere!) was a recipient. Alas, it didn't make the video catalog. The conference is in Maryland, so if you're available on Saturday, head on over! Art by Ray Caspio. Read more about the 2008 conference theme.
My bud Amy is doing the 3-Day Breast Cancer Walk and needs your help. I'm so proud that she's even trying to do this...all the training...all the fundraising...all the walking! If you can, please support her...and yes, I know that we should think before we pink, but this is my bud. Thanks! Please support me as I take an amazing journey in the fight against breast cancer! The Breast Cancer 3-Day is a 60-mile walk over the course of three days. Net proceeds benefit Susan G. Komen for the Cure and National Philanthropic Trust, funding important breast cancer research, education, screening, and treatment. My Aunt Rita passed away from Breast Cancer. Knowing this disease as I do, I can only hope that people can help me help them find a cure. This walk is much more than a physical journey...its a walk toward a cure....an end to the pain and suffering that this disease inflicts. So please...give...even if its just a little? It would mean the world to me!!
Today I'm a Mother of Intention over at PunditMom And in my quest to be a better pundit, I will be in NYC next weekend as I am in the 3rd and last class for the Progressive Women's Voices program ! Um, yeah...that's it folks. I'm kinda at a loss for words.
Maternity clothes. Some women loathe the time when it's time to admit that those jeans just ain't gonna button. I gotta tell ya that maternity clothes have gotten so cute that I often find myself in the middle of the Target maternity wear section without thinking. Or rather thinking "Oh...cute shirt dress! What size...oh...maternity!" Thus buying maternity clothes for your preggers BFF or partner is a tricky thing. I highly suggest gift cards...but NOT to maternity specialty stores like Motherhood Maternity. When I was growing up, the MM was at the start of the mall. I passed it for 15 years and my mom use to note that "when you're married & get pregnant, I'll take you here." Instead she was living in North Carolina and we hit the mega-MM at the mall. She bought a few hundred dollars of clothes for me because she knew (ironically) that she wouldn't be able to buy me more clothes for a while AND she knew oh so well, that I'd wait until
The NYTimes reports on a new definition that the Bushies want for the US Dept of Health & Human Services: abortion as follows: “any of the various procedures — including the prescription, dispensing and administration of any drug or the performance of any procedure or any other action — that results in the termination of the life of a human being in utero between conception and natural birth, whether before or after implantation.” WHAT...THE..FUCK!!!!! Yes, Bush & Co have less than a year and are fearful that Obama might come in and start to reverse things. Thus I imagine that that plan is to now fuck up as much as possible so that Obama can't actually do anything for the first oh, two terms. But instead of just being mad about it, do something. NARAL 's on the case and already has an action page for us. We must hold the line until we can get a new administration into office in January. Technorati tags: NARAL , Bush , abortion
If it's Monday that means I'm over at Work it, Mom! Today I'm discussing what makes a working mom and if non-moms (dads & child-free women) are welcome at the community. Feel free to drop by and leave your thoughts!
On the way to pick up the hubby on Thursday, NPR ran a story about a group called " Latinas for McCain. " I can't describe it, so you have to listen yourself. It also provoked some letters . The only thing I can say is that it is sad when stories, especially ones on NPR allow the interviewees to perpetuate myths about anyone, especially the "he's really a Muslim" myth about Barack Obama. I'm sure there were many other reasons why those Latinas were voting for McCain.
Yup, three of the blogs that I write for are now listed in Alltop. I took screen shots in case for some reason they fall out of favor. woot! The Work it, Mom! blog is listed under Moms (duh) and Viva La Feminista and WIMN's Voices is under women. I put a badge on my sidebar and it was hard deciding which one, but then I thought, "Which one would Cinnamon/Amy/Jenn pick for me?"
In some ways I don't want to keep blogging Jana stuff and in some ways I don't want us to forget her. It's been a surreal week for more than just one reason. Lots of drama within my circle of friends and then some awesome news for me...I'll update on Monday. But all of it caused me to reflect on my life, how lucky and unlucky I have been, and how much love and support I have around me. And much of that support didn't come easy either. So seeing all the loving and outraged comments around the blogosphere and here on Jana renewed my hope for humanity. NOW sent out a condolence email, California NOW blogged it, and Hesperia 's rant was very welcomed. Some days I admit to wanting to chuck it all and move out to the middle of nowhere and just stop thinking. The day I read about Jana was one of those days. But then I snap out of it and get angry all over again. Angry that I'd even want to check out! I'm off for pool-tastic fun and hopefully many pitchers o
The party penguin is starting the party up a little late due to a hectic day of work and then a sushi party for the Chicago Abortion Fund. But enough about our work day, it's time to party! One year ago I sat in front of a computer and started up this baby and woo-wee has it taken off far better than I had anticipated. Thanks so much to everyone who visits or reads this lil blog on a regular basis. If you're stumbling thru, thank you too! So what's a party with out some gifts? Thanks to Mom Central, I have a two Preserve tooth brushes to give away! Yes, I'm giving tooth brushes away on my blog bday. Gotta a problem with that? Dental hygiene is important and then a toothbrush that's made of recycled yogurt cups? Keep your teeth clean AND be green! And when it's time to get a new brush, you send your brush back to Recycline and they recycle it AGAIN ! Now that's getting a lot of use out of a yogurt cup. But that's not all...My mother-in-law is awesome. Es
Soon after I got pregnant, Cinnamon mentioned to me that one of her most cherished items is a journal that her mom kept while she was pregnant with Cinnamon. I kept both a pen & paper journal and a blog during my pregnancy. Of course now that the daughter is here, I do more blogging about her than writing...and in the last six months, I've hardly blogged about her too! But this week's suggestion for a possibly low-cost gift for the pregnant woman in your life is a simple blank book and pen. Sure, go ahead and spend more on a diary or even a diary for moms as well as a nice pen instead of a regular ball-point pen. Write a short note to her on a sheet of paper or even inside the journal. Perhaps she will open up to her child-to-be in those blank sheets. Go ahead and talk about the ups and downs of the pregnancy, I sure did. If something happens to me before my daughter gets her hands on it, she's gonna need some therapy. I wrote very honestly about my mother's illne
In the last 3 days I've had a zillion hits and quite a good number of links pointing here and what does my t-rating do? Nada. I've seen it inch up after just a few links and a few extra hits. I give up. Yes...blogging can be frustrating, especially when one is trying to at least keep pace with the straggling pro-bloggers in order to keep some sense of accomplishment. *sigh* Perhaps this is a sign from the goddess that I need to just keep my nose to the grindstone and do what I do...which is rant. Whether my t-rating is 3 digits or stuck where it is I need to just keep on trucking. OK...just first pity post is over.
Today is Jana's funeral. Alternet ran with this story, apparently broken by this blog, yet rewritten for them. I only find that odd in that Alternet seems to like to cross-post blogs...Perhaps mine was too personal of a post as their post was more of a straight forward obit. *shrug* I try to understand what they look for, but it's a mystery to me. Uncensored Feminista marks her 1-year-blog bday by discussing Jana and how she also lost a sibling, almost a year ago. Sociolitryst spread the word, as has Feministe , The F-Word , and Aiken Area Progressive AAP wins the award for best title. Everyday Citizen left two moving tributes to Jana in the comments and I want to make sure you all see them. If you have blogged this story, please leave a link in the comments! A fund has been set up at Jana's former law school to honor her memory: Jana Mackey Support for Public Advocacy Fund c/o Dean of Law Green Hall 1535 W. 15th St. Lawrence, KS 66045 --fund info via Alternet
As we all know us mommy bloggers are the shit with marketers right now because we buy a lot of stuff and we talk about it. The gals over at Mom Central sent me a sample of the new Action Scrubber from Scrubbing Bubbles. First of all, let me remind you that I am the worst housekeeper ever . My husband took over the bathroom duties years ago and does a fabu job...mostly because he has a much lower tolerance for dirt than I do. But I do love cleaning the bathroom. Tonight I took out the Action Scrubber and tested its worth. Overall I think it kinda failed. Yes, I love the idea of the scrubber and cleaner in one, but honestly I'm trying to be more green than that. I was thou afraid that the scrubber would super clean my dirty tub so much that Mr. Not-so-Green would say, "See, we need harsh chemicals!" It did clean the tub, but I didn't see too much of an improvement since the last time I cleaned the tub...which wasn't more than a few weeks ago. What I didn't lik
1] Thank you to everyone who came here, over a thousand according to FeedBurner (a new record!), to find information on Jana . I failed to mention, because it was in the news pieces, that she was a lobbyist for Kansas NOW and other progressive & feminist orgs. And thanks to Feministing & Shakesville for sending people over. If you also linked here, I thank you. Not for the visits, but to spread the word about Jana. If you haven't clicked on the comments, her brother stopped by to say thank you too. 2] Work it, Mom! Monday is a conversation about how difficult it can be for women to socialize within the workplace. While I'm the chatty chick here, get me in a room with cheese, wine & people and I'll spend all my time with the cheese & wine. And despite my tomboy childhood, I'm still not always good with hanging with the guys if they are being all potty-mouthed. Thank the goddess I work with good feminists (mostly women & one great guy). You don't
I was lazily checking on Facebook from my Treo when I noticed one of my BFFs updates " ...appalled that a friend's life could end in such a manner." And I immediately called her to find out who she had lost. This is the woman she lost...that WE lost: Jana Lynne Mackey. Above is a screen shot from a piece that ran in Lawrence, Kansas in 2004 just as the contingent that she helped organize to the March for Women's Lives. How did we lose such a beautiful & strong woman? Apparently her ex-boyfriend killed her and then the fucker killed himself . There is a Facebook group for Jana and as soon as I hit publish, I'm joining. One on hand, my friend, Kat, was not close to Jana. She knew her the way we know so many of us...from events, emails, etc. But Jana had gone back to school to earn a law degree so she could be a better advocate for women in violent relationships. Ironic, eh? We, the world, the feminist movement, the anti-violence movement, has lost a shining st
Welcome readers from the 61st Carnival of Feminists ! Days after Tiger Woods won the 2008 US Open columns sprung up about his amazing feat especially after it was revealed that his next appearance would be in the operation room to repair a torn ACL: As great as Woods was in winning the most important major golf tournament of the year, he just got greater. We now know he gritted out all those big drives, made all those miraculous shots and holed all those magnificent putts on a knee that wasn't yet healed from April surgery. And on a leg with stress fractures in two places. - Christine Brennan, USA Today “The diagnosis was not to play in the U.S. Open,” Hank Haney, Tiger’s swing coach, said Monday before chuckling. “There was no way he wasn’t playing the U.S. Open.” That’s what makes Tiger, Tiger. His ferocious competitive streak – which in this case may prove harmful – coupled with his intense mental strength allowed him to not only proceed when he shouldn’t have, but actually
hermana resist has an excellent piece on creating community and involving single moms. Hmmm...I know a few people from my past who should have read this. As a mom with a partner, I'd say that most of it applies to moms in general. realize that parents are people. Realize that parents are people. Realize that parents are the same people you knew before. realize that parents can be activists. but they are also parents. they have different things on their mind. Single parents often have things such as food, rent, money, health on their mind. Unlike the single person, they are usually thinking of their child(ren) when they think about these things. Sometimes a single parent (take me for example) cannot concentrate on the latest protest, though important as it may be, because I may be thinking of what will my next job be, and the addition of subtraction of money in my head. to build a community, parents and children should be welcome and not feel they can’t attend a meeting/event beca
When I got pregnant a good friend who was about six months ahead of me said, "You have to get a body pillow." I said, "Sure..." and filed it in the back of my head. By the time she had her daughter, I was just at the end of my first trimester and starting to actually FEEL pregnant. That, "OMG, I feel an extra few pounds heavy...And I can't roll on my belly!" Yes, medical folks will tell you that you do need to sleep on your side and for someone who is a belly sleeper, that's a HUGE adjustment. So when my husband & I went to visit the new lil baby, I said a world of YES to her offer to borrow the body pillow. This was after a few weeks of us looking for one at a reasonable price. Of course now you can buy one at Target for $18 ($9 for the pillow, $9 for the cover) and I have it! You can spend more on one and I bet they feel great...seriously, a body pillow is freaking heaven, thus a Tempur-Pedic one must be heaven with fat-free cream cheese
For about a month my daughter has been playing with her Leapfrog TAG , a gift from Leapfrog. And I'd have to say that she likes it. I'd have to say that the adults in her life don't. First, the kid's review: She doesn't like the "I Spy" book that I picked out for her due to a lack of story. It really is a book where kids can look for a kitten in a cloudscape. I think she would have liked it better if there was a list of things to find for each page. She loves that page in "Highlights." Seriously, each month it comes in the mail and BAM! her pen is out and we have to stop what we are doing. Just looking for things without a list is not challenging for her. She did like the "Ozzie and Mack" book, but more for the activities and games that go along with the book than reading the story itself. There is a game that asks kids to identify bugs within a timed period. Yes, my daughter is the timed challenge kinda kid. I have no idea where s